Last week I posted a blog I had written 2 years ago, How to manage the curve balls, I received some great feedback from HMC members. It was such great dialogue and lessons that came out of it that I felt it deserved a follow up blog. So here we go…
The first question came from a good friend who was concerned that the article could do more harm than good for anyone experiencing a horrific tragedy. Putting a happy face on and not addressing our true emotions can be harmful. I don’t disagree. The timing of my article and the Humboldt bus tragedy was the concern. How would this help that group?
It was a great question and one I needed to hear as I do take a very general approach to my blogs. The reason I do will be explained below and I hope you will read as the lessons I learned in these questions were powerful. Here was my response:
“I just read your weekly article which I very much enjoyed. Just before I read your article, I viewed this Ted talk– an interesting perspective.”
So off I went on my daily walk with my Dog and listened to it. “The gift and power of emotional courage.” The timing couldn’t have been better, the message was very powerful in light of the Humboldt tragedy and my friends question. Perhaps this was a more clear message on what needed to be said with the current situation around us. However, Susan David, is a Harvard Medical School psychologist and I am not! But having the opportunity now to follow up and share is great. Please find some time, on a walk, in the car, fixing dinner to have a listen.
The past week has been extremely emotional for me personally, not because I was directly affected by the tragedy but because of the emotions it stirs up inside relating to the families and what they are and will go through. I cry every time I hear anything related to Humboldt. I cry as I write this. I share this because, as much as I live and share positivity I do get sad, I get mad, I get scared. I do not hide my emotions but I try to address them with a positive frame of mind and that is what my true message is.
When you need help dealing with life’s gut punches please say yes to it. Use a professional that can guide you through. All I ask is that you bring a positive mindset that will help you find happiness again.