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I know it’s harsh but it rhymed! Actually, it wasn’t my idea, but I liked it and stole it!

We hear so much about creating a bucket list: a list of things we want to do before we kick the bucket. Some people want to jump out of airplanes, others what to run a marathon, travel the world, swim with dolphins—you get the picture. It’s a chance to step outside of your box and live.

I highly recommend creating that bucket list and completing something on it each year. It adds excitement to your life; gives you something to look forward to, save for and plan for as well; and it gives you a great sense of accomplishment when it is completed.

However, last night as we were discussing bucket list items a couple women made it very clear they had a bucket list but they also had a F#$% it list too. I was intrigued, what in the world is that? It turns out to be just as it sounds, it’s the things you are very clear on that you do not want to do. You are clear that no amount of marketing, advertising or enticing by friends will get you to do that thing. They are the things that go right through the hole in your bucket!

I loved that idea.

On Wednesday night this past week HMC hosted a night entitled Clarify Your Values ~ Simplify Your Life, and this connected perfectly with the bucket list conversation. On Wednesday we did some exercises that helped us to clarify our top 3 values and discussed why being clear on those values are important and how we can use them to help guide our decision making in life. We also discussed that media, advertising, and pressure from family and friends tend to influence so much of our decision making today. However, when we allow that to happen we are not always being true to our own values.

When you make choices in life based on your top three values we begin to live life authentically and get more enjoyment out of everyday life. It was a great lesson that was reinforced last night. It’s important to know what you truly want to do and what you don’t, and to be able to say no.

So what’s on your bucket list and do you make choices everyday that reflect your true values? Think about it and lets head in the direction of letting everything else go and trickle out through the hole in your bucket.

– Carol


  1. Cathetine on June 1, 2020 at 4:59 pm

    Did the Clarify your Values session take place in 2013 (the date of this article)? If so, is it time to run it again?

    • Carol Ploen-Hosegood on June 17, 2020 at 3:35 pm

      Yes it did, if you are interested in this contact Patti Phillips at She is the one who ran the event. And yes, you are right perhaps in the fall HMC should run one again. Stay tuned.

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